"And we thought he was here to help us or offer some type of assistance... I thought he was kidding. 'You are kidding right? We just had a hurricane six hours ago.' 'No, I’m not kidding. I have to cite you for this.' I just laughed. OK, whatever; knock yourself out!"
http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2017-09-22/florida-residents-warned-theyll-be-ticketed-hurricane-damaged-homes

Realist - Everybody in America is soft, and hates conflict. The cure for this, both in politics and social life, is the same -- hardihood. Give them raw truth.