Sorry, Monkeyman ... but, as I've gotten older, I have less and less patience with the "if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" horsesh!t mentality. As far as I'm concerned, if that is the case, then "if papa ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" is an equally valid attitude.
The essential American soul is hard, isolate, stoic, and a killer. It has never yet melted. ~ D.H. Lawrence